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justsomeantifas

im so sick of tiktok nurses and doctors trying to mock their patients for coming in and saying their pain is at a ten but not performing the pain for them

every time ive been in the hospital near death i was simply too exhausted to perform pain for these people. it was a ten on the pain scale but they thought i was faking it for whatever reason until they got my lab tests back and realized i would need to be checked in for quite a while

like maybe you, able bodied young doctor/nurse who has never experienced chronic pain and disability cannot fathom me rolling up near death and a flat expression unable to scream and holler about my agonies but I assure you some of us are just too fucking tired to scream about something we generally live with every single day

on god wanna punch the smug off their faces.

justsomeantifas

where do these people who have never experienced the pains theyre trying to judge others rankings get off mocking how chronically ill people express themselves?

one video in particular drives me up the wall, as it is some young nurse pretending to do patient intake in the ER and he is both the patient and nurse so he asks himself

what would you rank your head pain?

and he the patient flatly without emotion is like “ten”

so skeptically he as the nurse is like “so ten is the worst pain youve ever felt, like if someone with a chainsaw cut off your arm right now how would you rank your pain knowing that”

and he as the patient flippantly is like “9.5”

and the whole ~joke~ is “yeah youre lying”

but this situation really happened to my brother, he has a brain tumor and brain swelling to where he was dying, but was in too much pain to express it in a way an intake nurse would recognize as legitimate pain, so ofc they blew him off and he did get way too close to death because of that.

not all of us express extreme pains the same.

justsomeantifas

also need i fucking remind anyone, head pain and head injuries specifically can alter how you express your emotions and moods

theres a case of a man being literally shot in the head and he said he was in a lot of pain but everyone ignored that because he kept forgetting to act out the pain.

reddeaddesolation

I have Cerebral Palsy. I walk and stand in eays that are not natural for our bones and after 28 years, that shit hurts. All the time. Its hurt my entire life, so I have a God damn HIGH pain tolerance.

Add onto that that my parents actively told me not to perform my pain. I was told that expressing or showing that I was hurting was selfish, annoying and needy. What's the end result of that?

I get to an 8 on the pain scale and the only ways I perform that high of a pain are:

Deep breathing

Closing my eyes against it

Pinching my nose

Maybe rubbing the bones that hurt if I can reach it

I spent the last 5 or 6 years with my daily average being a 6 and I would hit an 8 at least 3 times a week.

Constantly being in that amount of pain means that you earn to mask it very well. And yeah, when I'm in terrible pain, seeing double, about to puke, my voice is flat as fuck. I turn really pale but I keep my mouth shut.

I've had doctors not believe my pain levels were that high regularly and all it did was make me reluctant to reach out for help managing my pain. They also refuse to believe my pain is that bad and yet I'm not taking opioid-based pain medication. I dont because I'm an addict. Same reason I dont keep a giant bottle of vodka in my house, I wont, but I also CANT. I promise if I did I'd become a raging alcoholic, just like one of my grandmothers.

My point, though, is that people are sometimes taught that they aren't even allowed to perform pain or discomfort and fuck those doctors and nurses who mock their patients or dont believe them.

nuevafracasa

I literally had my back broken in four places as a kid and had to wait for my dad to essentially force the supervisors where I was working to take me to the hospital, because all I could do was sit and cry silently and they insisted I’d be screaming my head off if it was “that bad.”

monstrousteaparty

My older brother has Downs Syndrome. He’s really good at masking his pain. Like, when he was 7 he had tonsillitis and my parents didn’t know until he passed out, because he didn’t tell them he wasn’t feeling well. We have to watch him to figure out if he’s hurting, and it scares the shit out of me that a doctor or nurse might not believe that he’s in pain because he doesn’t show it.

badbatchofbathsalts

Would like to again point out my experience from being a firefighter/emt who has had to do triage at multi-car pile ups:

Dead people don't scream.

The more hurt someone is, the quieter they are. People who are screaming are breathing. People running around and shouting for help have brain and motor function. It's the person quietly sitting still on the corner who is going into shock from internal bleeding.

Also some people are just built different. I've had a person with a broken leg offer to limp themself to the ambulance. I had a woman complain of foot pain, apologized for calling 911 over something trivial, and when we put her on the 4 lead heart monitor she was clearly having a minor heart attack. The heart attack was presenting weird symptoms, which is not unusual for woman as they have higher pain tolerances than men. If we had assumed she was just being dramatic and skipped the ECG part of the assessment protocol she could have fucking died.

This is why when you go to the hospital every medical person who sees you keeps asking the same questions. We don't know if the last asshat who did an assessment missed something important.

ororomunroedontpullout

I will also say the exact opposite is true too: people who are screaming and crying are told they are overreacting. Literally seen nurses dismiss crying patients as attention seeking and inappropriate. Screaming patients are ignored and also mocked as dramatic. You literally can’t win.

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duckapus

One thing I love about Lilo and Stitch is that when Jumba and Pleakley first meet Pleakley is rightfully terrified of this massive, intellegent, unhinged criminal that he’s been left alone in a cell with, and then by the time we see them again outside the pet store Pleakley is very clearly the one in charge and isn’t having any of Jumba’s shit even though the power dynamic has actually gotten worse since they have no supervision and Jumba is now armed but Pleakley doesn’t seem to be. And even when they get fired and Jumba goes off the rails Pleakley still isn’t scared(you know, beyond the general fear that comes with being in the middle of a firefight) and is still willing to work with the guy. Like, what happened on the flight to Earth that caused such a dramatic, long lasting shift to their dynamic?

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Anonymous asked:

do you have any tips for someone pretty new to art? i’ve done a lot of practice of proportions and things but i’m sort of stuck in a rut where i don’t have the confidence to experiment with colours and shapes and i just draw the same people and features over n over :S

inahiddenplace answered:

something you have to learn once you’ve gotten comfortable in the routine of continuously working on technique is that technique isn’t actually the point. it helps, obviously, to be able to accurately depict things, if anything just because it allows you to more accurately express yourself. but that’s just it, expressing yourself is the point, and usually that’s forgotten along the way. when you were a child, art was less about accuracy than it was about motion. scribbling, scrawling, splattering. there was color and shapes and movement, and more likely, there was fun. the joy in art comes from the honesty in how its done. who are you doing this for? i’ve drawn my whole life. for the majority of that time, it was me just trying to draw people. to get it right. in the last year i realized something though- i wasn’t letting myself actually use art for its intended purpose. i feel so much, all the time, and i wasn’t letting that color what i was making. if i did, it was too ham-fisted, to purposeful in its execution, i was trying so hard to make what i was making “good” that it ceased to mean anything.

i guess that’s when it comes back to you, when you decide to stop caring about how good something is and start caring about how much fun you’re having. then it becomes more instinctive, that’s when you discover your style. confidence… confidence isn’t something that comes from practice or talent or anything like that. confidence is when you feel like you have nothing to prove to people. this isn’t a competition, this is art. your art is yours before it is anyone else’s. it’s not about impressing anyone. it’s about being honest to who you are. it’s about connecting. it’s about sharing, loving, it’s about what you feel like you need to say, even if those words are only for you.

here are my tips for you:

- if you can, buy some paint markers. i buy posca. draw some shapes. don’t try and draw anything in particular. just have fun. it’s hard to be accurate with them, that’s the point. i like them because they make adding a splash of color easy and you don’t have to think too hard. after that, well you’ve created a new and fun canvas, draw whatever you want on top.

- start drawing in pen. no erasers. no pencil. it’s going to be ugly at first. but learn to work with your mistakes. learn how mistakes can lead to new things. you can go back to pencil later, but for a while challenge yourself to only draw with things you can’t erase.

- finish every page in every sketch book you start. don’t just do a sketch here and there and turn the page just because you don’t like it. give every page it’s due. if you don’t like how it turns out, paint over it and restart. some of the favorite pages in my sketch books have been ones i’ve painted over.

- literally just, don’t hold yourself back from trying things in art or being a little wacky. even if you think you’re not “good enough yet” or whatever. you get better at things by doing them. that’s it.

art should be fun! art should be about feeling! art should be able release! art should be a place where you feel safe and seen. the worst thing is when we start seeing art as a skill versus a basic part of human nature. is breathing a skill? is hunger? are tears? is love? it’s not about being good at them, it’s about doing them. it’s about listening to yourself. that’s all.

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